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PsychoSexual Therapist and Sexual Counsellor for Colchester, Essex, and South Suffolk

My name is Sandra Hayes. I am a psychosexual therapist (or sex therapist) serving the Colchester area of Essex and I am convenient for the south Suffolk area.

I work with both individuals and couples of any sexual identity (heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual). My services are completely confidential and I treat all clients in a caring, non-judgmental manner.

Typical Sex Therapy Sessions

I will never ask you to do anything sexual in the therapy room; all we do there is talk. I may ask you to do some behavioural exercises at home because changing what you do can often change your thoughts and emotions.

I typically use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), which explores the interaction between how we think, feel and behave. I may also use some psychodynamic techniques, which involve exploring how unconscious thought processes may be reflected in your behaviour.

I see clients initially for an assessment, to ensure Psychosexual Therapy (PST) is the most appropriate thing at this time, then spend several sessions taking client history and discussing my findings. Then I devise a treatment plan with you and commence therapy.

Therapy Cost

£50 for individuals and £60 for couples per 50 minute session.

Counselling for the Colchester Area

I work from my home near Colchester. This is convenient for north and mid Essex towns such as Halstead, Braintree, Harwich and Chelmsford. Colchester's good connections with the A120 also make it convenient for Bishops Stortford and Harlow to the west and Harwich and Clacton-on-Sea to the east; the A12 provides a direct route to Brentwood and Romford.

Convenient for South Suffolk; Accessible from South Norfolk and Cambridge

I am about half-an-hour's drive from the Suffolk towns of Sudbury and Hadleigh and I am about 45 minutes from Ipswich.

Further afield, I am about an hour's drive from Bury St Edmunds and just over an hour's drive from Newmarket and the south Norfolk towns of Thetford and Diss. I am about 90 minutes from Cambridge.

Professional Membership and Qualifications

Member of COSRT
(the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists)
Member of the Royal College of Nursing Member of the Nursing and Midwifery Council
  • Postgraduate diploma in Psychosexual Therapy from the Relate Institute
  • BSc Psychology
  • Registered nurse

Professional Qualities and Approaches Used

  • Confidential
  • Sensitive
  • Professional
  • Caring
  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
  • Psychosexual Therapy
  • Psychodynamic Counselling

Some of the Conditions That I Treat

Couple in bedroom experiencing problems
  • Loss of desire
  • Sexual aversion
  • Sexuality issues
  • Painful sex
  • Vaginismus
  • Orgasmic difficulties
  • Erectile problems
  • Premature or delayed ejaculation
  • Sex addiction

I Work With

Heterosexual (Straight), Homosexual (Lesbian / Gay), Bisexual, Transgender